The family brought dinner to the nursing home to spend time with my mom. The nursing home has a conference room that we reserved for some nice family time. My dad cooked a pot roast and my sister baked dessert. My job was to get the meal there in one piece. The food was delicious and it was nice to see my mom in a different space. Shamus sent a beautiful bouquet of yellow roses to his grandmother so you know he maintains his place in the family...LOL!!! It was wonderful that the kids remembered me as their godmother. I must admit I was also a bit sad, I noticed my mom was truly not aware of what was going on for many parts of the lunch. She ate when she was fed, but I could tell she was not following the conversation and when she got tired she turned cranky quickly. I don't know if you have ever been around people with Alzheimer's, but they get a far away look in their eyes and in that moment they do not know what's happening. I can also tell her timeframe is shifting for what she remembers, for example, many times in discussions now I have to call her mom (not mema) and when I discuss papa I must say dad. We took her back to her room for a nap when we were done and I took papa home for his nap. I almost took a nap, but just as my head started to bob, papa came and asked me a question - there goes nap time.
For those you of that follow me on FB, you know I posted plenty of pictures of my travels this past week. I must say I did not plan anything in particular to get done so I could just be a bit spontaneous. Many of you know that's difficult for me - perhaps that was the advantage of being by myself rather than worrying about everyone else. Have you ever met someone that impacted you almost immediately? That's what my Thursday morning felt like. I was wandering the streets of P'town and I saw a day spa. I went to check out the window/brochures and to check hours and such as some places were not open for the season yet. I saw a man inside, but did not pay too much attention. I continued walking and looked at some flowers across from the spa when this man came out and approached me. He told me I was walking too fast and not stopping to smell the flowers and check them out. I think I was still too much in my head at this point. He told me his name was Doug and also told me a corny joke. We had a short conversation and told me to come back later to the spa and mention his joke (I found out later he was the owner of the spa). He then walked me over to a secret alley way and showed me some beautiful yards/gardens. He said there are many of these in P'town you just have to find them. He told me about his ill father and I mentioned my mom - it was almost an instant connection. As we parted, he gave me such a caring hug. It truly made me slow down my walking and really pay attention. You know I went back to the spa later that day.
My adventurous day continued at the spa. I met the nicest man named Andre. When I said something about the joke, he said you're Marie, I've been expecting you! WOW did that make me feel good! We had a wonderful discussion about many topics - again instant connection. I went in for a facial, but swear I had several "AHA" moments. I was there for hours - off season so very slow on a Thursday. It was a fabulous way to spend a couple of hours. I swear there was a few moments when we both teared up a bit. When I went to leave - again huge caring hug. This man so made my dad that on Friday I went to the florist in town and had a small arrangement prepared. I walked into the spa and Andre ran to give me a huge hug. When I told him the arrangement was for him as a thank you for everything on Thursday - more hugs. He was so kind, he said if you want to hang out and have dinner come back later. We chatted some more and then I left as a customer was arriving. I did not go back as I knew he had plans for Friday night, but so appreciate his offer. I left P'town feeling the goodness of how people impact each other. In the past I mentioned our circles in life and I feel like I added Doug and Andre to my circle.
Part of my trip was to visit the Cape Code National Seashore. There are several parts to it, but I had not been to Nauset in over 35 years. I could not believe the changes as some parts were blocked off due to erosion. I saw Mother Natures work last week as part of the dunes collapsed and cut off beach access to another section. I got to see a few lighthouses with at least one that still had the beacon working which was great because it was foggy. One non-working lighthouse actually had a golf course built around it with a view to beat all views.
I took the long way home yesterday as I traveled the back road vice the highway. I remembered on the roadtrip to Florida I took with Mary how much we enjoyed traveling the back road. I had such a good time as I ventured through towns that I truly have not explored in the past. Lots and lots of galleries, quaint shops and restaurants/coffee shops. A journey that via the highway would have taken 90 minutes took me 4 hours as I took my time and stopped when I wanted to - even turned around to pop into a shop.
I was a bit nostalgic as I traveled this past week. I laughed at what they now call condominiums in my day were called cabins or cottages. I thought to myself - can you get more money by calling it a condo? I found a store that sells penuche - for those of you that don't know what it is....it's a form a fudge that for the most part is only found in New England. I grew up eating penuche so I had to get some plain and with nuts. Something to nibble on over the next week or so...of course I'll share with dad.
One of the patients in the nursing home passed away last week. He was a very nice man, but I feel sorry for his spouse. Her life for the past couple of years has been to be at the nursing home 6 days a week to ensure he ate breakfast and usually lunch. I'm so hoping she takes time for herself to grieve and than has some time for herself to move on. I don't have details for his service yet, but I hope to see her soon so I can check on her. Nursing homes like many other places have cycles and sometimes when one person passes a few others follow. There are a couple of people that have been fighting infections and seem to be failing so we are keeping an eye out on everyone. I find myself checking every day to see if everyone is there.
I'm so glad that I took my dad's suggestion and got away for a few days. Knowing that I was only a short distance away worked for me. I guess I should come up with a couple more of these types of short trips for myself as it does help with refreshing the mind and the soul.
I did finish reading: "WHERE THE RIVER ENDS" by Charles Martin. When the cover says this book will break your heart you should believe it. This is the third book I have read by Charles Martin and I must say I'm a huge fan. Each of his books has touched my heart in some way.
Happy Birthday to my friend Margaret! I hope you had a fantastic birthday!
I'm going to leave it here for today. I hope you have a good week. Thanks to all of you that reach out to me with thoughts and prayers I so appreciate it. Take care. Chat soon. Marie
"The best and most beautiful things in the world cannot be seen or even touched - they must be felt with the heart." - Helen Keller
“Be not afraid of life. Believe that life is worth living, and your belief will help create the fact.” – William James
“When I let go of what I am, I become what I might be.”– Lao Tzu